FriENds

When ever people mentioned FRIENDS, people will always having lots of those “Friendship quotes”, ”Friendship bracelet” , “Friendship shirt”…ect so so many else.

Friendship was  importance “element” wondering and chasing by majority among us. What I think was weird.Instead of gaining more friend , I choose to  step away from this complicated relationship.

I m writing this not on what reason, but for sharing purpose.

After this 21 years of life, I learnt through all happened and finally get this conclusion. Maybe no everyone has same opinion, at least this is mine.

“Friendship is good to have , but better with boarder 

I m having this quotes as the guide in my life , always remained me to beware.Friend suppose to be a seasoning to your life , it can make your life tasty or bad ,so the amount should be aware and adjust it to be nicely fit you.Too close ,friend will become as a burden instead a life companies that share your daily story.

When at one point, everythings happened in life that you must have your friends with or to share with, I have good reason to suspect  you are actually fall for her/him .If not ,I don’t mind to take this big responsibility to encouraged you  consider  her/him as your couple , because you guys just too romantic to be friend only.

When the day pass days,month by months and years , negative elements no doubt will appeared ,angriness, egoness, selfishness, rudeness, and so on., like a black hole that gain bigger.The selfishness and ego  growth  silence in everyone of us ,without realize sometime it may explode.Most of them end up fight but soon get back togather.

 #2 possibility# either they become very close friend or they mess up.

Why to owe a friend while at the last you gonna lost it with those unjoyful ending.

I have few friends of mine and we manage to hold our friendship for so long since kindergarten until now , in the other way my recent friendship was not so pleasent.One of the main reason that I can ever figured , 

the long distance reduce the friction between us

“The truth love hurt you the most , so friend too.”

I m having too much unflashable worst lessons,it lead my fear.

I had been betrayed,and tired of witnessing  the back stab among friend. 

“Believe no one unless yourself and family,nor friend too”
this was another quote I gaining through a painful experience.Chaos create when you too much of faith and trust toward one, but she/ he turn you up.She/he turned back to you at the moment you need them the most.This damn hurt me.

But I still believe in truly friendship existing.

I gone jealous sometimes look at those unbreakable friendship.The same time, another evil voice whisperring in my heart ,”Maybe they just good in cover those wounds ,pretend they were fine.”  

For this new years and new sem and new life, I make my birthday wishes ,one of them was get rid of those friendship problem.

So basically what principle I practicing right now to make sure my friendship end longer , longer shelf life.

1.  blended with all of them nicely 
2. Act like a balance, treat all equally. 
3.They are same,dun label one either  “normal friend” ,” good friends”,” best friends” , or” VIP friends”.

 4. Put my best effort to keep a standard distance ,so can avoid those unnecessary friction in routine that can drag to unhappiness.
5. Get away from those unhealthy activity of gossip, even I m a definitely a gossip girl.
6. I hate those sacastic friends, that never realise one word can hurt much

 

 <+++++++LETTER FOR MY DEAREST FRIENDS+++++++>

To my fellow friends:

Nice to met you all.

Welcome you with my wide open arms.

Hope we can  have an endless friendship until old,and play hide and seek in our wheelchair.

Lets make a pinky promise^^.No regret                 

From : Emy

Age of 21

Ever read an article , the writer was too anxious for her marriage planning.Here was what she really wrote about in an article .



"Women above of age 35 would be listed as high risk pregnancy mom. Smartest way to maximize mother health and baby's health is to have those baby planning done right before step in age 35.Minimum target of  3 children small size family planning with the gap of 1 - 2 years between them,will take up to 5 years. Roughly count ,mother need get pregnant before age of 29.

After the university graduation at the age of 24, approximately 2 years need for the man and woman to get stable in their economic,own assets and save for the big wedding cost.Earned enough money and get marry at age 28.1 year of new wedding honeymoon life before upgrade as mother or father.

An expert ever said,"The relationship up to 4 years and above ,have the lowest risk to divorce."

 So , this mean  at the age of 20 ,we supposed to grab our MR RIGHT/MS RIGHT ,if your don't wan to be late or missed up with this life procedure."



For me,all this was came too fast.I m will be 21 years old after October of this year.In the age of so precious 21 age,so much I wanna do , I havent do and I plan to do.More elements like friendship , sisterhood-ship,family-ship ,should glow your day better then shit relationship.

"Acting bitter toward the lovey-dovey couples you always see around is the reason why you’re single. No need to be judgmental of others’ relationship.Focus on you and your nonexistent relationship. "

Dont stress up with the marriage, 
it dont give a shit warranty to your marriage even you really manage to follow with the exactly plan.


So chill my girl.Be the happy one. *Anxious make you aging*

About ITB

I did chitchat with 2 of my ITB seniors just now.The way they described ITB totally different then what I heard before.It was freaked me out.


Me : I heard my pharmacist ever said ITB was a nice school.Easy going college life .

Seniors : What the hell are you talking about?Who told you ITB was easy?I think he/she was telling you in sarcastic way.That is no such thing.

Me : In ITB they conducted our class in English right?

Senior : Ermm with term and condition.If your intake manage to archive more then 5 international students per class, they may open a new class for international student which fully conduct in English.If not,ITB simply dumped you into the regular class,with local students.The local class will be all in Indonesia language.

Me : When is our midsem break or sem break?

Senior : No.For your information,ITB had no 1 week of midsem break like Malaysia,but they did had sem break.Dont stress,not only ITB no midsem break ,but all university in Indonesia too.This mean, during exam week ,in the same time you need to complete your lab report,research ,homework,and lab. We will have our holiday,Sem break,in May (3 months) and December ( 3 weeks).

Me :I heard the entry requirements over here are quite low,quite easy for Malaysia students to get their place here.

Senior : No deny, the entry requirements really lower than Malaysia ,but it dont mean easy to get your place here.As you know , ITB finally secured its place in the first rank of Indonesia Pharmacy School this year,2015.In order to maintain their place, ITB did make they biggest efforts on the academic which quite stressful for us,student.For Malaysia students intake , ITB did set a quota and the number kept on decrease from years to years.This year there is only 5 of the international student from Malaysia.Quite sad , I thought it should be more than these.Make sure you make your physically and mentally well prepared ,sleep and rest while you can.Once you started your class,there will be no time at all for rest.Sometimes we only slept 4 hours per day.

Me : How if I fail my paper for my first year?

Senior : If you fail your paper,what a bad news to tell you,that you only can retake the papers on your seconds year.If you fail 1 paper,mean you need totally retake the whole entire paper,and compulsory come for the every classes.Because the attendance take in count.It will become a burden.My advice is try hard to not fail your subject if not it will be tough for the coming up years..

Me : Ever any students didnt complete their study and back Malaysia for good?

Senior : Few of them.ITB was quite stressfull ,I did cried lot at the first year I am here.I ever told my dad,I wanna give up.But at the last,see.I m still here doing my forth year,final year.So there will sure tension but just remember we,seniors all are ready to help if you face any problem in study.

Me :I did have really bad math.

Senior : Err, the maths are relatively simple. Just basic multiplications and stuff.Its just how you apply the formulas into practice.

You might interest to read my : FIRST DAY ITB REGISTERATION

FOod

I m from Malaysia,and I m a typical Chinese that cant really eat spicy.(Mean even bit spice make me sweat and face blushed red)

So,that was quite funny ,when I exactly choose to further my study in Indonesia.

Bandung,local peoples used to tell me, "Ini pedas ya sedikit..."

When I came to taste it.What a lie."Hollyshit, what the X$%^*^$@&%#@.Damn spicy drew me to tear man.!! "Truly worry how I gonna spend my rest of 4 years life here with these kind of food.

We started seek for those no spicy food that we familiar with.The result came out was...

1. Nasi Goreng
2. Nasi Goreng
3. Nasi Goreng
4.Nasi Goreng.........

Dont think it was a simple fried rice dish.Meanwhile it really huge knowledge and experience.I always asked price first and add on few words when I ordered it.


" Fried rice WITH EGG AND FRIED EGG ON TOP."
"NO BAKSO(beef). NO SPICY. NO CILLI. NO GULA."


After a week here,I started to adapt with environment and food. Every times I pass by angot, I used to see the small stalls in trolley by roadside.Ever desired to taste it,but its still too early.Lets take more time for my little tummy comfort with here 's food,in order to prevent any stomachache in night again.

After day and night of fried rice as my most importance energy source, I got bored.Moved my sight to other kind of food,mostly are fast food,western food. Japanese food , Korean food and so on.


Heehee.

International Relation Office

The most importance things when you further oversea study,make sure you make real much copies of all your documents and photo.Approximately should more then 6 copies ;One copy for  registration ITB school, one copy for visa,one copy for agent,one copy for kitas(IRO),one copy for bank ,one copy for self keep.

*Kitas is kind of indonesia visa or student visa *

The international informed us ,they would took 2 months above to get our kitas done.In the duration of this 2 months,we not supposed to back Malaysia,or our kitas will be automatically cancelled.Due to certain kind of problem,not sure technique or procedure problem,our kitas wont done in 2 months .That means we need to renew our visa after 2 months if not they can fined us almost rm 100  per day for stay in Indonesia.

What a nonsense excuse to charge us more!

(I have my diploma convocation ceremony first week of octorber,Izit this mean I cant make it back.Damn !!!!!)

ITB Registration day

Wake up early in the morning ,putted on my best suit.Today was a big day for me,no doubt I felt the butterflies in my tummy.

Waited in front of my hostel (they call kost)for our agent,IBu Lien to pick us up.A black colour tinted glass Hyundai car stopped in front of us,and we entered in.

“Did you bring your all documents  I mentioned in whatsapp yesterday.?Passport?Bacause later we were going for the ITB new student registeration and also IRo (ITB Indonesia Immigration Office).

It was early in the morning.We could felt the cool freeze wind hit against us make me shivered.I regretted to forgot my sweater in my room.All along the way to ITB,my eyes kept  staring outside through window.Bandung,was a busy hectic city,where the traffic always jam.The driver in Bandung  must owned good driving skill in order  to survive. If you are saying Kuala Lumpur traffic jam,I think bandung traffic jam was more worst.The reason was in Bandung the road small and the traffic jam in chaos.Two lanes road might have 3 lanes driving car or more.The U turn not  really a U-turn road instead of a U turn signboard in a 2 ways road,no any specific way.Watching those traffic making me phobia.

After 20 minutes of driving,we arrived .With our personal  documents and few documents  gave by our agent in hand,we stepped into our school.First thing I ever thought when I got down from car ,“Why this ITB look so different with what I saw on internet.”Soon,I got my answer.Actually in Bandung got lot of ITB and this ITB is call Auditorium SABUGA. SABUGA is a red building where we gonna do our registration by own inside,no parents or agent allow. Queue was super long in front.Even I thought we are early ,but yet still late.We queued at the most behind one.I looked around me,why they all wearing uniform,white shirt and dark blue pant.Some of them looked young ,age between 16 and 19.In the same time,the other students also gave us some weird glance,cant blame them.Who asked us to wear so unformally, as they were all in their dark green jacket.

Okay,finally the gate opened.We queued at the back ,but been given priority for registration.Maybe because we are international students.A security guard opened the way for three of us and guided along to the international student register counter.Whoooaaa the scene was so familiar,in drama always showed a super VIP came and security guard opened way for him.That was what exactly I felt.Along the procedures to register ,damn lucky got an international officer assisted us beside.Bahasa Indonesia sounded likely Bahasa Melayu but actually no so.It essence and some pronounce did form the communication gap between us.The registration form was in Indonesia.No mean to be so stupid,but honestly I seriously cant understand their language so well.So basically we communicated in English.

Checked. Our colour blindness test not pass.In the other word,they dun really accepted Malaysia Hospital Colorblindness test result.So they want us to redo a new check up.We came to ITB Rumah Sakit.I heard my father Indonesia worker  ever told me,

“Rumah Sakit in Indonesia will charge your super expensive.If Don’t have money mean ,they wont serve you even you die.”

His words kept re-flashed in my mind.Opened my wallet ,checked my money.

”My money enough?”I started worried.

When time to pay,in the payment resit,rp 25 000.For a typical Malaysian ,I wasn’t so good with the money rate changing to Ringgit value.Calculated.”HollySh**”.The big amount did scared me,actual value in Ringgit was RM8.10.This  price in Malaysia only enough for your lunch.Quite cheap for a medical checkup.

Done our checkup,backed to campus.Proceed with the registration.Lot of sections  need to go through, personal information,family data,hostel,payment,photoshot,insurance………Actually because I m Chinese, so people used to assumed me Indonesia Chinese .The officer would speak in Indonesia with us.Today was a day I showed most blur face in my life.I acted so idoit,like a English people dumped in Indonesia.

”I am international student from Malaysia.Can you speak English ,I cant really understand Indonesia.”I surprisely found this sentence quite useful.For this whole day long, I dun knew how many time did I repeated this, when ever I came to new officer.

Next stop will be the IRO(Indonesia ITB Immigration Registeration Office).

ITB was so big,triple than my previous college.Lot of charity and sale booths around run by the students.They also sold food,all look so weird for me.

Even I m damn hungry ,but I m not willing to take a risk on those strange food.I scared my tummy cant stand it,and again suffered of diarrhea.

We meet few of the local students , they were so kind and friendly.