The reason I took psychology class, is to understand more about the amazing creature of god, humans and myself.
INTRODCUTION:
After the
psychology class delivered by Prof. Dr Ibu Lia , I guess my really get to know
myself better. I like how the way this subject was delivered to student, more
to encourage communication and sharing section between students. From the
communication and presentation or description in front class, it helps the
students explore more and discover the mystery parts(Blind part and unknown
part) , which they never even realize the existence.
THE DESCRIPTION OF MYSELF: SELF IMAGE
Self image is what
I can see in myself. I believe “Nothing is impossible, I will get what I want
depend how much my efforts” I m confidence and believe in myself. Once I set a
target and I will keep focus on it, make it suggest. Sometimes I will try to
push myself , as I wanna know where is the limit of me and is it possible to
beyond my limit..I will be happy with small little achievement in life and high
self-motivate when came to failure. I learn from my failure in life, and remind
myself never repeat it again in future. I glad with myself and be grateful with
everything I had.
HIGH ESTEEM
For the better
or more accurately descript myself , I took an online test regarding self
esteem on the link https://www.psychologytoday.com/
My test result :
THE FACTORS INFLUENCE MY SELF ESTEEM
First, the
factor may influence my self esteem mostly came for the person I care. The
doubt of family members or my friends really bring me down sometimes. Because
they are importance part of me, so I always wish got the recognization or
agreement of them in things I do. In the same time, they encouraging words may
be simple but incredible work so well for me. I felt like boost of energy with
only one words from them compare to millions of motivation article I read. I
hate person fond to sarcastic. For them maybe, it is a joke or for fun. If the sarcastic went
beyond the limit or touch the sensitive issue, I will definitely no pleasant
with it. It can drag down confidence level in myself. The negative thinking or
discourage from the others , friends , can make me doubt of my own ability too.
IDEAL SELF(My own opinion)
I had lot of
ideal self. More appropriately , I had lot of idols in my life which I wish to
be. The reasons I m making them as my idols mostly because of their good
attitude, good achievement, which I wish to be the same. The ideal self of me
kept changed when I grew, every different phases in life. I had different
requirement or target I set to myself in every phase or after certain went
through experience. It s the fact I tried to improve myself. Its good to get an
life idol, as I try to adapt the good part of them. My current idol of life is
my pharmacist boss during internship. I impressed with the leadership, good
communication , good behavior, good attitude, very organize and high motivation
in self. The pharmacist stay humble and respect to the others, never showing
off with his knowledge instead willing to share. I guess I found the ideal self
in him. I wish to be a pharmacist just like him.
HOW TO ARCHIEVE IDEAL SELF(My own opinions)
In order to
reduce the gap between my self image and ideal self and get myself closer to
the ideal of me. The very first of all, I guess I need to improve my self image
and self esteem.
The common question people will ask
“How to improve self image and
self esteem?”
Ya, someone
they might realize their weakness or their lacking part , but the willingness
to make changes is the most importance. Action should sound louder than your
voice. Making a change may not easy , but efforts will be pay. “Telling
yourself instead staying in your very own comfort zone, its time to step out of
this box which limited yourself.” Peoples always said yourself is the biggest
enemy you need to go through in order to be success.
Improving self-
image. Example improving any skills. No one born to be perfect and know everything.
A good skills need times and repeated practice. For myself, I m trying to
explore my own potential in things I fond with. I loved music, it clam me and
good way to release tension. So I tried to learn music instrument, guitar.. Sometimes my friends or my family
might doubt of my ability, it kinda bring me down sometimes. But always be
motivate, I told myself : “Trying for it bring no harm, why not” The more their
deny my ability it burn my spiritual to do the best and prove to them.
When I was
young , I always put academic or study as the first. But as the time pass, I m
realize one things, study and be smart is our responsible. But in future, I need to
handle with patients, human being
instead of books/ paper/ laptop.
- I m trying to improve my soft skill
which I found it will be useful for me in future. I tried to improve my
communication skill, good expression and good conversation skill.
- I tried to
improve my language. Especially\ English. I wish to learn American English so I
learned from YouTube.
- I like to read article or watch the psychology talking show
/ YouTube regarding how to be a good listener and be good leader. Strict enough
to express our opinions, smart enough to make people agree with it and avoid those negative outcomes.
This will
be truly useful for us when we step in to another level, working phase. How to
maintain a good relationship between
human being, coworker, leader always the
headache part.
Developing good
self-esteem involves encouraging a positive (but realistic) attitude toward
yourself and the world around you and appreciating your worth, while at the
same time behaving responsibly towards others.
Self-esteem isn't
self-absorption, it's self-respect.
The suggestion is,
working from inside out. What does this mean? It actually give meaning of
changing your own thinking before changing the other’s. The goal is to build
confidence level in yourself. A more positive thinking , accepting who you are
is most importance part.
Meanwhile , for
a girl , appearance can give big impact in self-esteem. A tidy entire , not
need to be the expensive or brand, but should be tidy and comfortable. No
necessary to put thick make up on face, but self-hygiene and a smile. Took care
of own appearance, it’s a respect for other and our own self. This is what my
mum used to told me.
I ever read a
book title “What is the different between you and me”, wrote by a very
successful business man ranked top 10 in
world. I love the book so much, it teach me lot about life. The different
between people with high and low self-esteem is , low self-esteem always came
with negative thinking and don’t really believe in themselves. “I cannot”
always heard from them, self deny. Vise versa people with high esteem will do the
opposite. They are so motivated and positive thinking, enough to even influence
the other and the environment.
Most of the time I will correct my own thinking,
try to not exaggerated the negative. Whenever this happen, I found method of
stand in front mirror and give the motivation word to self it work. Stick the
motivation and happy quotes in the corner easy to be seen in room. The
motivation words to myself on small sticky paper when ever I feel down.. I stick
on mirror in toilet , so I will saw it in the morning during I wash my face/
brush my teeth. Every morning is a new starting of days, which I need to
reorganize all the puzzle of problem and try to sort it out.
“No one done no
mistakes in life”
If I ever done mistakes, I will angry with myself. But
after that I will try to figure out the solution. The pass is past,
nothing we can do with regret or blaming self, but try to solve it. I love a
quote
“Blame yourself shortly for the mistakes , but make it as lesson
forever. ”
All the problems can be solve, sometimes its about how we deal and
which perspective we are. Sometimes try to change your view from another
perspective, not to be stubborn to the others critics. Treat yourself better,
self-love is most importance.
Respect cant buy with money but you need to earn
it, Respect yourself so the other will respect you too.
In life, I learned to forgive and accepting
advises/ critics. I will filter and take critics in good way , make it a reason to better
self.
# I love my age ,
OLD enough to know better,
YOUNG enough not to care,
EXPERIENCE enough to do it right.
